Drive-thru guide to information and resources on bullying, harassment, stalking, violence, stress, trauma, PTSD etc
Constant criticism, nit-picking, humiliation, undermining, denial, refusal to value? Sounds like bullying

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Drive-thru guide to bullying and related issues
On this page
Bullying | School bullying and child bullying | Harassment | Stalking
Toxic management and the toxic manager
Domestic violence and domestic abuse
Terminating a violent or potentially violent employee
Stress | Sexual abuse | Trauma | Psychiatric injury
Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Recovery from violence, disaster, accident etc
Links to people, resources and organisations tackling bullying and violence

Bullying

Study this web site Bully OnLine, probably the world's most comprehensive resource on identifying and dealing with bullying. Start by visiting the Site Map or using a search engine:

School bullying and child bullying

See the pages child and school bullying. For details of other organisations see the child and school bullying links page.

Prominent cases: Josh Beullardo and Jonathan Miller, Carnell v. North Yorkshire County Council

Harassment

Harassment is any form of behaviour exhibited towards you which is unwelcome and which, in European law, "affects the dignity of men and women at work". See my page on harassment. The harasser, who is likely to have a history of harassment, has a profile similar to the serial bully.

I recommend Gavin de Becker's book The gift of fear: survival signals that protect us from violence

Toxic management

Click here for a detailed behaviour profile of the toxic manager.

Stalking

Stalking is not a modern phenomenon, although its incidence seems to have risen considerably in the latter part of the twentieth century, perhaps aided by the publicity provided by the media. Contrary to popular opinion, stalking is not limited to males stalking females, although this is probably the most common combination. Most stalkers are annoying rather than dangerous, but some do culminate in violence. In the UK, the Protection From Harassment Act has both civil and criminal provisions and was drafted and developed with stalkers in mind. See also http://www.harassment-law.co.uk

For information on personal safety see the Suzy Lamplugh Trust web site. 

I strongly recommend Gavin de Becker's book The gift of fear: survival signals that protect us from violence

Domestic violence and domestic abuse

See my page on domestic violence. I recommend Patricia Evans' book The verbally abusive relationship: how to recognize it and how to respond

Terminating a violent or potentially violent employee

Gavin de Becker's book The gift of fear: survival signals that protect us from violence contains advice and guidance on dealing with violent or potentially violent employees. De Becker provides advice on the best means of dismissing such an individual whilst reducing the likelihood of that person returning and offering violence.

Stress

Bully OnLine identifies bullying as the main but least recognized cause of stress. Find out the truth about stress on the pages on stress and how stress causes injury to health. If prolonged negative stress has resulted in trauma, see my PTSD page.

Sexual abuse

See my page on childhood sexual abuse and the page on abuse in general.

Trauma

See my PTSD page and David Kinchin's book Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the invisible injury

Psychiatric injury

See my PTSD page and David Kinchin's book Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the invisible injury

Post traumatic stress disorder

See my PTSD page and David Kinchin's book Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the invisible injury

Recovery from violence

See my PTSD page and David Kinchin's book Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the invisible injury

Links to people, organisations and web sites

Want more ideas? Names, addresses, phone numbers, web sites? See my links page.

The focus of Bully OnLine is bullying in the workplace. I believe half the population are bullied or harassed or abused; click here to see if this fits your experience in life. Many emailers and callers to my UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line are dealing with a serial bully at work. Some are living with one. Bully OnLine provides insight and practical information to validate the bullying people are experiencing.

Recommended reading

Bully in sight
How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying
Overcoming the silence and denial by which abuse thrives
by
Tim Field
Foreword by Diana Lamplugh OBE
ISBN 0 9529121 04
Published by Success Unlimited 1996, reprinted 1998, 1999 and 2001
Paperback, 16 chapters, 384 pages, resources, index
Click book cover (left) for more details

"Will be eagerly read by those waiting for an update [to Andrea Adams' book]"
Times Educational Supplement 7/3/97
"Powerful, compassionate, practical" Nursing Times, 1/1/97

Readers' feedback and comments.

Bully in sight identifies the bullying as the common denominator of harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse, conflict and violence, and describes the principal perpetrator of psychological violence, the serial bully.

Written with the experience and insight only a fellow experiencer can impart, Bully in sight validates the experience of bullying when everyone else is trying to deny it.

Packed with insight, ideas and direction, plus sources of help and suggested reading.

Order a signed copy from Success Unlimited:
 Online with secure credit card ordering
 By fax or letter with printed order form

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
The invisible injury, 2001 edition
by
David Kinchin

ISBN 0-9529121-3-9
Published by Success Unlimited 2001
Paperback, 16 chapters, 208 pages, resources, index
Click book cover (left) for more details

"This is the book I so badly wanted when I was traumatised."
David Kinchin, Author

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the invisible injury provides clear, practical advice for recovery from major traumatic experiences, including accident, fire, explosion, disaster, rape, violence, or witnessing such events.

Order a copy from Success Unlimited:
 Online with secure credit card ordering
 By fax or letter with printed order form